How to break up

1 - Make sure he/she finds out first

Never tell your friends or other people you are going to break up. This is something simple that tells a lot about a person's character. Always make sure he/she is the first to know.

2 - Pick a date

Normally you could pick out any date but keep in mind that if she/he is very emotional and you think it will crush them, you might want to do it on Friday so they have the weekend to recover and spend time with friends. But if she/he is the type to smash everything in his/her wake you might wanna do it on Monday so they'll be busy and not have time for anything stupid. Whatever the date, you should stick to it.

3 - Meet in a neutral area

This is basic common sense. Would you want to break up with her/him at your place or her place ? Do you really want memories to rush back ? Meet in a park, where you are both comfortable to talk and express.

4 - End it in person, no sms, call or mail

Show some character and say what's on your mind directly. Messaging someone or calling and breaking up just show you are a coward. It won't be easy, there will surely be the urge to text her/him, but remember, that just shows you have a weak character. Even if it ends at least she/he will still see you as a someone with a spine.

5 - Keep it clean and simple

Just tell her/him about your decision, tell them your reasons and how you decided that this is for the best. Whatever you do DONT start reliving the past, or remembering certain moments, like how you met. This is probably the worst you can do. Make sure you emphasize your regret and how this is for the best for both.

6 - Ask them to put themselves in your place

Just ask her/him to imagine having all the reasons you do for breaking up and ask her/him what would she/he do in that situation. By the way you might want to make sure you're not breaking up over something stupid or inventing reasons otherwise you will end up in a real awkward situation now.

7 - Don't turn back or change your mind

There is nothing worse for your image or mind health, than to change your mind. You took your time (hopefully), you ended with this decision. Stick with it. There will be the obvious "but i don't understand why you're doing this" but stand your ground to the end.

8 - Be ready for anything

Questioning - They will want to know why, whether they could have done anything to prevent it, can they still do anything and so on. You should prepare for these questions, but if she/he surprises you, just be honest.

Crying - This is perfectly normal, be sympathetic but don't let this affect your decision and change your mind.

Arguing - The other person might even argue your reasons for breaking up. Do not engage in a fight, just let them know that is how you feel about this.

Bargaining or begging - The other person might even want to bargain with you and promise they will change. They could even start to beg you to change your mind. Just ask yourself "would you really want to be with someone who is just pretending to be something else ?". They haven't changed so far, they won't change now.

Lashing out - This can get really scary and threats may come out. If this happens just leave quickly before it escalates to something else.

Ending a relation is not easy, but ending it like this is best for both and ensures minimum recovery time.